
You matched. You messaged. Maybe you even flirted for a couple of days. And then… silence.
If you’ve ever been ghosted on Hinge (or any dating app), you know how baffling and disappointing it can be. The conversation was going somewhere and everything seemed so promising—until it wasn’t.
So, what happened? And more importantly, is there a right way to follow up without seeming pushy or awkward? Luckily for you, there is! Today we are going to get into a couple of great strategies you can use.
Okay look, sometimes it is about you! Dating apps require a strong skillset that includes posting the write photos, creating an attractive photo gallery, and sending effective messages.
If you don’t do these things properly, there is no amount of advice that will be able to revive the conversation.
But often times, ghosting has nothing to do with you personally, especially if the other person seemed really into when you began communicating. Dating apps are chaotic. Notifications pile up, interest levels shift, life gets busy. Many people just don’t prioritize app-based connections—even when they’re initially excited.
Sometimes it’s just a case of bad timing, distractions, or someone who wasn’t fully ready to engage. And if that’s the case, the solutions below are very effective.
“Can’t believe this relationship is over already! Can I at least come pick up my toothbrush and clothes… ;P”

Instead of coming across as needy or confrontational, a playful message brings lightness to an awkward moment. Humor softens the silence and makes it easier for someone to re-engage without feeling pressured or guilty.
By using phrases like “officially broken up” or referencing something like a “left-behind hoodie,” the message taps into familiar relationship clichés. These tropes turn the ghosting into a tongue-in-cheek moment, almost like an inside joke between two people who were never actually dating.
Handling ghosting with wit rather than frustration shows emotional intelligence. It signals that you’re mature, confident, and emotionally grounded—qualities that naturally attract others.
Most importantly, this kind of message keeps the door open without demanding anything in return. It says, “We can still laugh about this if you want to,” which creates a low-pressure, welcoming space for someone to respond.

“In all seriousness though, it seems like we both get a little busy for this app, but you seem like one of the few people on here I’d like to get to know a little better. How about we exchange numbers and let’s try to figure something out. Talk to you soon!
✅ It’s comes across as confident as opposed to needy.
✅ “Talk to you soon!” implies you know the other person will say yes.
✅. It’s framed to not make it seem like you were sitting around all day thinking about why they ghosted.
✅ It implies you have a busy and fulfilling life that does revolve around these apps.

My data shows that the response rate to these messages is over 70% in situations where there seemed to be a strong mutual interest prior. On the other hand, when there was a lack of enthusiasm and connection prior to ghosting, the response rate is in the single digits.

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