Online Dating Profile Examples
A Profile Writing Tutorial from NEM Founder, Joshua Pompey
A Profile Writing Tutorial from NEM Founder, Joshua Pompey
For the better half of a decade I have been writing online dating profiles for men and women all over the world. And if there is one thing I can assure you, it is that the written portion of your profile is absolutely critical to the overall success you will have. The written portion of your profile is a direct reflection of who you are, what you represent, and why someone else should want to date you.
With countless people competing for the same dates online, you need to be operating with nothing short of an amazing profile that is optimized towards generating interest and attracting high quality singles. Not sure what to write? Don’t worry for another second. As someone who has been helping online daters at a success rate of over 99% since 2009, I can easily get you on the path to success. Here at Next Evolution Matchmaking, the goal isn’t to just attract any man or woman. The goal is to attract the highest quality men and women.
In this profile writing tutorial, I am going to take two poorly written online dating profile examples, and show you how to transform them into profiles that will attract the type of attention you are looking for.
One of the biggest mistakes people make with writing a profile is blending into the masses. You may have a great personality and a wide variety of interests that others would find attractive, but if you don’t know how to write about these things in ways that will spark interest, you will find yourself with minimal results at best. In this part of the tutorial, I am going to take a common profile example that would fail to stand out from the crowd, and then re-write it in a way that is optimized towards making others take notice.
“Hey my name is Jessica, I run a 10th grade drama program, and I love my job.”
So what’s wrong with the online dating profile example above? Jessica has a great job and may love what she does, but unfortunately, this description will not spark any attraction or interest. It is boring, cliche, and uninspired. So let’s transform the example above into the kind of writing that others will take notice of.
“Most days of the week you could find me living out my dream as a 10th grade drama teacher. Not only do I get to help others and make a difference in peoples lives, but I get to unleash my silly side and share my passion with the world each and every day. What could possibly be better? Well, maybe a drama free date with the perfect guy? Wink… Wink…”
In the revised profile example, Jessica now appears unique, stands out from the competition, demonstrates various aspects of her personality, reveals qualities men are attracted to (helping others, being silly, etc.), displays nothing but positive energy, shows a passion for her daily life, demonstrate humor with a playful joke, and innocently flirts with the reader. All of this (and more) is accomplished in just a few very short sentences. This is a dramatic and drastic improvement over the original example.
Another massive mistake most people make when writing an online dating profile is unintentionally sending off negative vibes. Whether it is having too many requirements, making lists of what you don’t want in a partner, or something else entirely, it is absolutely critical to avoid this mistake. Let’s take a look at a common example of a profile that is way too demanding and sends off negative energy.
“The right woman for me needs to be beautiful, active, and very intelligent. If you care more about money than happiness, or live outside of the city, please move on, I’m only looking to date local.”
While the words will differ from profile to profile, I see profiles similar to the example above all the time. It is ok to desire certain qualities in a partner, but they have to worded correctly. This online dating profile example comes across as needy, negative, arrogant, aggressive, and far too demanding. In addition, the money comment would cause a woman to think you have baggage. Negative vibes will always attract negative attention. So let’s spin the desires above into a profile example that sends positive vibes that will attract positive attention.
“If you are cute, active, and down-to earth, then you will definitely have my attention. If you could add some intelligent conversation to the mix as well, then I may just have my tiny little grandmother begging to meet you. She’s feisty, but don’t worry, I don’t usually introduce her until at least an hour into the first date… ;)”
Notice how we essentially demonstrated the same desires as the original profile example (attractive, active, intelligent, etc.), except this time we worded it in a positive and light-hearted way that feels natural. Instead of emphasizing what we don’t want, we focused on what we do want, while adding a little bit of humor to the mix.
Finally, the comment about only dating local was eliminated because it is irrelevant. If that is something you don’t want (or any quality for that matter), delete the other persons email if they don’t match your criteria, or just adjust your search preferences. At the end of the day, making lists of what you don’t want in a partner will almost never deter the people you are trying to avoid. These people simply don’t care. But you may just scare away the people you do want with lists that are filled with deal-breakers. Focus on the positive only.
Want to save yourself the extremely time consuming task of writing your own profile? Just imagine if every word of your profile had the same attention to detail as the online dating profile examples above.
Here at Next Evolution Matchmaking, my staff and I have been writing profiles at a success rate of over 99% since 2009 for men and women all over the world. In addition, our online dating profile service offers a risk-free, full refund guarantee. If you don’t like the profile we create for you, request a refund within three days via email and you will receive a full refund with no hidden return fees. We are that confident in what we do based on more than half a decade of experience!